Blueprints, Tools and Financial Flow – A Clinical Hypnosis Approach For Financial Wellness
Invariably when I work with a successful family, we reach a point in the relationship where they will pause in the middle of the meeting, clear their throat, and in a serious tone, ask for help – not for themselves, but for a family member who causes them the greatest concern. It could be a child, parent, sibling…regardless, the story has a common feel. Typically, for the person in question, wealth and the management of it does not come intuitively. And their struggle with money is having an impact on other family members, who may be lending them funds, or simply experiencing the stress that comes with worrying deeply about someone dear.
I’m asked all the time if I can help. While I can provide a framework and some coaching, ultimately there is an element of nature versus nurture that has laid the blueprint for financial success. For some people, that blueprint is too flimsy.
But it is possible to help these people. Since money is psychological, I began to wonder whether a hypnotist could help navigate the challenges faced by those who struggle with the management of money? Can we fight the nature versus nurture philosophy?
Since it is always good to have a clinical hypnotist in the Rolodex, I reached out to Dylan Rumley, Director of the Neuro Wellness Center, and a Master Medical/Clinical Hypnotherapist in Palo Alto, CA, for a discussion on whether the financial solutions for many lie in the subconscious.
Megan: Dylan, can you give us a brief explanation of the science of hypnosis?
Dylan: We all have a subconscious and memories. These are sensory filing systems that hold everything we have touched, heard and felt. And what’s remarkable is that these memories are alive. So, you can go back into a memory and just be there, as they’re all connected based on everything happening in our sensory system. If there has been a trauma in the sensory filing system, the trauma is alive because the subconscious doesn’t recognize time. And this allows us to heal the trauma and clean up the files.
Megan: Given this, is it possible to use clinical hypnosis to help someone with poor money management skills to change their behavior?
Dylan: Yes, that’s known as “re-blueprinting” – you have to create a new blueprint after you heal the trauma. That’s the thing about the subconscious – it will spin the feeling until you address it. It keeps manifesting in different stages or different ways. The behavior is an old blueprint, which is why it can’t be changed if it isn’t conscious in the sensory filing system. It’s like you’re watching a movie over and over again and feel as if you have no control to just turn it off.
So let’s take trust-fund children for example. A component of their relationship with their parents is often based on money, and how those parents handled and related to money. The layers began at an early age.
And typically the money issues attach to something else, usually to “worthiness.”
Money is about safety and security – which most people sabotage constantly, albeit unconsciously. People change their perception financially when they realize that whatever is going on needs a resolution.
Megan: So how do people come to you and realize it might tie back to a subconscious issue?
Dylan: People come to me for their physical and mental health. And those are always related – it’s never just either/or.
Take the case of an individual who overspends. What are the layers beneath that uncontrolled spending? That person might say, “I don’t mean to but I find myself doing it and I don’t know why I am doing it.”
The truth is, they can’t stop it because it is tied up with something they can’t remember, perhaps a trauma pushed deep down in the layers of the brain.
Megan: When you have worked with people and uncover a money issue, are they able to use clinical techniques that you teach them to improve financial habits?
Dylan: Let’s use the word “tools” rather than techniques, as it implies a different mindset. There are all sorts of techniques but humans are more attracted to tools than to techniques, so they feel they have something they can own and use themselves.
Megan: That’s an interesting distinction.
Dylan: I always say, “I am giving you tools which you will use for the rest of your life.”
Megan: Are the tools specific for each person or is there a common tool that works for people who financially struggle?
Dylan: It is the same set of tools, which I call realignment tools. Individuals will reach for whichever one they need for realignment, depending on what’s going on at a particular time in their life. If you are shifting in one direction you use the tools to realign to another direction.
It is a holistic approach to finance – you go into the subconscious and see what you are doing there and then you look at your physical symptoms. Maybe your heart or gut issues are actually the result of these subconscious thoughts; these in turn impact how you manage your money and your life.
Ultimately, you have to be healthy to think clearly.
Megan: So true! People apply the same discipline of following a healthy lifestyle to finances. It makes you feel good when you eat healthy and work out.
Dylan: And it makes you feel good when your finances are in order.
Megan: Most of my clients enjoy good health and are in good physical shape. They are not overweight. It’s not who they are. It’s not their make-up. But they may have financial challenges. Is it possible for them to manage anxiety when dealing with money?
Dylan: When your brain is in a “whole brain state”, you mitigate anxiety or it at a minimum, you reduce it significantly. (Interviewer’s Note: Whole Brain State is defined as “a state of consciousness having the qualities and attributes of both brain hemispheres operating simultaneously, having the mind/brain's full response system available; having a ‘user-friendly’ state of consciousness for changing subconscious beliefs quickly and easily.”*)
Stress tends to kick people out of their “whole brain state.” This is something we ought to teach our children – how to use the tools to balance the brain and return to a whole-brain state to think clearly. In life you have four options to choose from when faced with obstacles: remain frozen, fight or flight, or flow. When you recognize that you are frozen, fighting or fleeing, you need to acknowledge it and use the tools to shift you back into flow. Healthy brain flow and steady finances go hand and glove, in my opinion.
Megan: When working with clients, we talk about the fact that for a healthy financial life, one should experience negative as well as positive situations around money – a mix of good and bad experiences is normal. Hopefully you have more good than bad experiences. This seems similar to what you say about holistically treating an individual. And so your point about flow, some of the flow is in accepting and navigating negative financial situations as well.
Dylan: Let’s reframe “negative.” There are obstacles. I try to keep the words “problems” or “negativity” out of my vocabulary. There are obstacles in finance. Everyone has them because you are expanding and growing. So if you encounter an obstacle, you must flow over and around it, and figure it out. That’s just the way it is. As soon as someone hears “negative” or “problem,” they flee. Obstacles become challenges to deal with and eventually overcome, rather than problems.
In many ways, it is like the stories we hear in mythology. We all must experience the hero’s journey; it is part of our psyche. As in mythology, there are obstacles put in the hero’s way in order for him or her to work through, toward success.
I work with a number of people in Silicon Valley who are establishing start-ups. There are some people who likely will fare well because they see obstacles as challenges — and they like a good challenge. Those who only see “problems” in front of them likely won’t make it.
My goal is help clients shift those perceptions. Once that happens, they help their companies can achieve the best possible outcomes.
Megan: Dylan, thank you so much for your time.
For more information on clinical hypnosis, Dylan Rumley can be contacted by her website – www.neuro-wellness.org
* Jeffrey L. Fannin, PhD. Neuroscientist Director, Center for Cognitive Enhancement, http://www.wholebrainbalancing.com/research.html